Hen and Friend and Me Makes Three

4 May

Gender neutrality. Can we truly ever have gender neutral societies? Or just ultra liberal, politically correct societies? Why can’t we all just be people?

My head is swimming in a pool of confusion. Do I really long for a simpler time when guys were guys and girls were girls and no one dared to question those invisible lines that separated our species into two distinct camps?

Hen is the new Swedish word that is an expression of gender neutrality. Instead of saying “boys and girls” or “men and women” or “ladies and gents”…it’s just “hen”. If a child is just a child and we don’t want to offend the child by identifying its gender…we say “hen”. Right? I thought hens were female chickens. Or maybe I’m just too American to wrap my head around a new word.

To me, the whole gender neutral thing is just odd because I don’t see what people are making such a fuss about. I wouldn’t care if I had a son and he wanted to wear a dress up gown and child sized heels around the house. Just like I wouldn’t give a rip if my little girl wanted to run around shirtless and play in the dirt.

I’d trust my kids to figure things out on their own. Eventually, little boys notice that other little boys don’t run around in pink tutus. Little girls realize that other little girls don’t run around topless. Little boys become young men and lose the desire to play dress up. Little girls become young women and realize that running around topless is only acceptable if you’re straddling a pole while wearing a g-string.

Gender neutrality is really a trap, one of the sort that doesn’t seem like a trap at first. It started innocently enough as yet another leg of the race towards equality. Well-meaning persons who have gender identity disorders, as well as those who wish not to identify their gender for various reasons, wanted to have rights and be protected under the law. Unfortunately, they seek the law of man, and not the law of God. And that indeed leads to problems.

The Word says that we were created male and female. I believe that to be true. Most of us are clearly marked as male or female at birth. The differences are pretty obvious, eh? And those differences only become more apparent as the floppy little fleshbags aka babies grow into real live people with voices and opinions. Some people are created with ambiguous genitalia, or genitals that appear neither female nor male, but some combination of both or something that is undefinable. Even those who are born as such usually know what gender they identify as from a young age.

In my very humble opinion, there is no way that a person can truly be gender neutral. You are male or you are female. You can’t be both and you can’t be neither. Gender neutrality and gender fluidity are lies that destroy one’s identity and personality. I find it sad that a nation would basically push this sort of wishy-washy forced equality upon an entire generation of children…but especially under the banner of freedom of expression.

Freedom means that you are free and part of being free is being free to choose. There is no freedom to choose to be a girly girl or a boy’s boy in a society that insists that we are all hen. There is no freedom when your play is supervised and you are told that you must only participate in activities that are gender neutral. You can’t play house or dress up because those are girl activities. You can’t play with cars or run around poking things with sticks because those are boy activities.

I just don’t see any good coming of this push towards gender neutrality. Period. At best, a very small segment of people who are emotionally and psychologically attached to this ideal of “gender doesn’t matter” will be appeased. At worst, a large portion of the next generation of children will grow up questioning gender and wondering where they fit in. So who really wins? I think it is the adults who are leading this charge towards a genderless society. They are the ones pushing the boundaries, crying out for fairness because it suits their agenda of ultra-liberal idealism.


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